The tongue has power over life and death. When wise words are used, transfer of wisdom takes place from one person to another, but the unwise words have the opposite effect. Statements such as, "I wish you had never born", "why did I marry you", "you cannot do this" will have negative impact. Whereas enriching statements such as "I am proud of you my son", "I am lucky to have you as my wife", "I am sure that you are capable of doing this" will definitely give positive effect... ‘The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but violence is concealed in the mouth of evildoers’.
The words spoken to a child in his/her early stages can mould their life for good or bad. Take an example of a man who used to say to his son "you are not going to amount to anything". Years later the man would still feel the pain of his father's words. But at the same time in another case, the father used to say, "you are so special to me, there is no one in the world who could take your place" and he grew with a personality characterised by optimism.
When we allow people to put their feelings into words, we will be surprised to notice that words have such a powerful impact. Soothing words at the time of distress can bring comfort. For eg "you will be in my prayers everyday, be brave." ‘Sin will not be lacking where too many words are spoken; the prudent man controls his tongue’.
When a doctor while writing out a prescription told the woman to put out her tongue. When he was finished she said to him, but doctor, you never even looked at my tongue. The doctor replied, it wasn't necessary; I just wanted you to keep quiet while I wrote the prescription.
Do not allow your lips to slips, if so, observe five things such as "of whom, to whom, how, when, where". `Your own words will declare you either acquitted or condemned`. Words have the potential to destroy or build up, to hurt or heal, to bless or blister, to bring comfort or consternation. But the unkind or cutting words are like deadly missiles that penetrate the soul producing a deep scar that can stay with us for life.
Most importantly, the tone of voice conveys our mood. Many times the friction in human relationships is caused not so much by the words we speak but by the tone of voice. We can't change the things we said yesterday, but think of the possibilities ahead of us today and tomorrow. Let us not wait for another day – start now.
The words spoken to a child in his/her early stages can mould their life for good or bad. Take an example of a man who used to say to his son "you are not going to amount to anything". Years later the man would still feel the pain of his father's words. But at the same time in another case, the father used to say, "you are so special to me, there is no one in the world who could take your place" and he grew with a personality characterised by optimism.
When we allow people to put their feelings into words, we will be surprised to notice that words have such a powerful impact. Soothing words at the time of distress can bring comfort. For eg "you will be in my prayers everyday, be brave." ‘Sin will not be lacking where too many words are spoken; the prudent man controls his tongue’.
When a doctor while writing out a prescription told the woman to put out her tongue. When he was finished she said to him, but doctor, you never even looked at my tongue. The doctor replied, it wasn't necessary; I just wanted you to keep quiet while I wrote the prescription.
Do not allow your lips to slips, if so, observe five things such as "of whom, to whom, how, when, where". `Your own words will declare you either acquitted or condemned`. Words have the potential to destroy or build up, to hurt or heal, to bless or blister, to bring comfort or consternation. But the unkind or cutting words are like deadly missiles that penetrate the soul producing a deep scar that can stay with us for life.
Most importantly, the tone of voice conveys our mood. Many times the friction in human relationships is caused not so much by the words we speak but by the tone of voice. We can't change the things we said yesterday, but think of the possibilities ahead of us today and tomorrow. Let us not wait for another day – start now.
-- By Rosley Jose
